I could use some help. Back in late May 2006, I had a teen, who is a regular, threaten another teen that he would “shoot him” if he didn’t leave his brother alone. The other teen is a regular and was angry at this guy’s brother, probably at the little brother’s instigation. I was not there at the time (isn’t that the way it goes?), so I just thought these guys needed to work out how to not get in each other’s faces. A few days later, I talked to the teen that was threatened. His mother let me know what the other guy said about shooting him. They were ready to go to another church. This was news for me, so when I confronted the teen about this, he didn’t deny saying it.
I told him that he did not need to come back (trying to explain that I’ve got to take him seriously). He said that he didn’t want to come back anyway. Well, to make the story shorter, he wants to come back. I have no idea in the world how to know if someone is ready to come back to church after saying “I’m gonna shoot you.”
What process other than some subjective “you just know,” is there? He is willing to apologize to the guy and to the church, but something tells me that doesn’t cut it for the sake of the safety of others. Anybody been there? Anybody know what they would do if they were? Grace and peace. Please pray for this guy before responding.
Well, what do you think, UYWI nation? Has this happened to you? What would you do?